Fatherhood

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when even three hours, four hours of concentrated uninterrupted time every day would move to goals they truly care about way down the field. — I think kids do make you more productive in that way for people who need it, especially people like me. They create their urgency. Lik if you have to be done by 5:00, it's a maybe counterintuitive notion, but for people like me who like to work, you can really fill the day with fluff of work. And if you have to be done by 5:00, you're going to have to do the deep work and get it done. Like really focus singular work. And then you're just gonna cut off all the pressure. — It keeps you honest. It keeps you honest because you can squander one day, you can squander two days. But if I squander a whole week, I feel terrible. Now that's just some drive I have in me

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where I feel content and full meaning if I actually do stuff that matters, if I can look back upon the week and go like that was a nice week, really. We moved forward. Maybe we didn't get done, but we moved forward and everything got better. And I think kids really helped just time box things in that way. And a lot of people need that because I find just so much of the celebration of overwork to be so tiresome. Oh, I work 60 hours or 80 hours or 100 hours a week and just like, first of all, no, you don't. No, you don't. Like those 80 hours are full of all sorts of fluff that you label work, but that I would laugh at and that most people laugh at. That you would laugh at if you actually did the analysis of where's that time going. Most of the important stuff that has to be done is done in these uninterrupted chunks of two hours here or four hours there or five hours there. The hard part is making sure you get them in the whole piece.

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So don't give me that. There's time enough. And also what's so important that it ranks above continuing your lineage. I think there's just some ancient honor in the fact that, again, this DNA that's sitting on this chair traveled 30,000 years to get here and you're gonna squander all that away just so you can send a few more emails. — There is something that's also hard to convert into words of just the kind of fun you can have just playing with your kids. I don't know what that on the surface it's like, I can have that kind of fun just playing video games by myself. But no, it's like there's something magical about it, right? — I have a thousand hours logged in "Fortnite" since 19, I think, all of it with my kids. I'd never be playing "Fortnite." Well, I don't know if I never would be. I wouldn't be playing a thousand hours of "Fortnite" if it wasn't for my kids. The enjoyment for me is to do

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something with them that I also happen to enjoy. I really love "Fortnite." It's a phenomenal game. I don't have to force myself to play that with them. I often ask like, hey, do you wanna play "Fortnite?" But still, it's an activity that I get to share with them. It's a passion that I get to share with them. I've started doing go-karting with my oldest. I've been driving race cars for a long time and now they're getting into go-karting and just being at the go-kart track, seeing them go around, seeing them get faster, seeing them learn that skill, you just go look at like, what else would I be doing with my life? At my age, 45, I'm standing here truly enjoying life. I brought into this world. What else was so important at this stage that I would otherwise be spending my time on? — All right, like you mentioned, you like to race cars and you do it at a world class competitive level, which is incredible. So how'd you get into it? What attracts you to racing? What do you love about it?